Swinging 101
Swinger’s Sex What It Is?
Swinger’s Sex What It Is?
Swinging began in 50’s in America and it is not a sex technique but a lifestyle. Today swinging has spread far and wide and is most popular in the western world including Australia and New Zealand. Swingers or adult swingers as they are called follow the swinger’s lifestyle as has come to existence in modern times.
In countries with closed cultures where tradition and orthodoxy is deep rooted swinging is practically unheard of. But in countries or rather societies which have experienced sexual liberation and freed themselves of traditional mores and dogmas, swinging has taken deep roots. Although it is not widespread to that extent were swinging is expected as a social custom or norm. The reason is swinging is not for all. It is only for those couples who are willing to share their partners or sexuality in agreement with each other and in full knowledge of each other. Since the bondage among singing couples is nowhere broken or weak on the contrary the marital bonds are very strong to permit sex with others in full faith and trust. Swinging is definitely not advised for couples who have disturbed marriage or a disputed affair as many experts advise. The marriage can rock further if jealousy sets in for a great degree of maturity and understanding is required for swinging. Hence swinging is for mature couples.
As most swingers have expressed that their marital bonds have become stronger after they entered the world of adult swingers. The reason is that couples may not find full sexual satisfaction or may not be able to experience their sexuality to the fullest in a monogamous relationship. Swinging allows couples to experience their sexuality to the fullest with the involvement of different sex partners with which they have accepted to enjoy sex. The sex combinations may be threesome foursome or group sex according to the preference of the swingers. Partner exchange or wife swapping can be for sex in same room or in different rooms. Many such factors apply in swinging.
Swinging is not wild sex as people think. There are rules and etiquette to which are adhered to very strictly by swingers. First of all there is no cheating involved as the couples indulge in swinging with the acceptance of each other and in full knowledge of each other. Swinging just does not take place between any swingers rather the partners are carefully chosen in likeness of both husband and wife. The sexual preference and limitations are strictly maintained as per the swingers desires and no violation of privacy of any kind is tolerated.
The best way that couple can enter swinging is to join a swingers club that entertains newbie or amateur swingers although one can enter straight way through personals ads in swingers personals of a dating sites or in a swingers party. But swingers club are sticklers for rules and etiquette and hence bring more comfort for the nervous couple who is experiencing swinging for the first time.
Follow the norms and advice and you will enjoy swinging - just be sure whether you wish for this lifestyle or it can be embarrassing or even heart breaking for you and your wife.
Last but not the least please practice safe sex - use a condom always.
By: christina
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Swinging Versus Divorce
Swinging Versus Divorce
The swinging facts;
Swinging, also called the alternative or ‘alt’ lifestyle, seems to be increasingly popular among mainstream, middle-aged married couples in America. With this increasing number of people who are into the lifestyle there is also a growing need for interactive ways to meet similar thinking couples. They find the internet to be the ultimate way to interaction. Distance is no longer an issue to meet similar thinking others because of the increasing number of lifestyle lovers who join a worldwide swingers community such as http://www.sdc.com.
According to swingers, the lifestyle can be a solution to (sexual) crises in relationships provided that the emotional bonding is still in tact. According to King (1996) one of the things that normally occurs in a relationship is sexual habituation. This will lead to changes in how we interact with our partners. It will take about three to seven years into a relationship when partners need to increase the levels of stimulation, to obtain the same level of sexual interest in each other. This can be a stressful point in marriages, changes of infidelity are increasing and the divorce rate peaks. Couples who find a way to reconnect both physically and emotionally are more likely to make it through this period. Therefore swinging may be a creative solution.
Scientific studies show consistently that swingers bond better in a relationship than monogamous couples. Another interesting outcome of research is that swingers are happier in their relationships than the average person.
60 Percent of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship. Also swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32% very happy). Overall they consider their lives much more exciting (76% against 54% exciting) than couples who don’t consider swinging as a lifestyle.
The origin of swinging goes back to the 1950’s when California military couples gathered at so called key clubs. Here husbands tossed their keys into a large bowl and the wives then drew a set of keys and the owner of those keys became her sexual partner for the night.
The media soon gave a name to this key swapping and described it as wife swapping. This early swinging lead in the 1960’s to the opening of the first organization for swingers, the "Sexual Freedom League’ at Berkeley, California.
later years up until the present swinging evolved to a widespread style of living. The uprising of the internet gave swinging an impulse. People from all over the world meet through the world wide web.
One of the most popular sites among swingers is http://www.sdc.com.
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Married Personals - How To Enjoy Swinging
Married Personals - How To Enjoy Swinging
My partner and I are swingers and have been using the married personals section on a few different dating websites for 2 years or there abouts. What I will endeavor to do is relate to you what we have learned to date. When you arrange sexual encounters with married persons, whether you are married or not, these pieces of advice will help make your experience go smoothly.
Be Anonymous
If the man or women you wish to meet is a cheater ensure that you do not give away any about yourself. Let us say you meet a woman who intends to cheat on her hubby. What you certainly don’t wish to happen is an angry married man kicking down your door.
Clever preparation dictates to meet in a locality where you are unknown and in a public place for drinks. Then go back to a motel room. Do not ever give away your surname, where you work (or what you do for a living), and be mindful not to leave your wallet or purse where ID inside could be found.
Use Roleplay In Preparation
If you are a couple who is going to swing with another couple, you should prepare yourself with various role play sessions. This will let help you be ready for what is to come in the actual session.
A good method is for you and your husband or wife to take turns covering their eyes with a blindfold and thinking that the other person is a different person. Do you become uncomfortable or is the experience even more pleasurable that normal?
Novice Swingers
When going to swing for the very first time, endeavor to find a person or couple who is equally new to the scene. When you are all a little nervous and unsure together it is much less intimidating than swinging with experienced partners.
Sit together and have a beer. Be honest and tell them that you’re a little nervous. Your intended partners will quickly lighten up and agree that, yes, they are shy too. Now you will be stunned at just how less shy you feel once everyone admits how they’re feeling.
Telling Your Lover You Want To Swing
This can be a potentially precarious situation in a happy relationship.
When you mention to your husband or wife about considering married personals it can be done during lovemaking. Now I agree, there are other ways, but having spoken to many married swingers I’ve come to the conclusion that this is the popular way that works.
While making love to your wife or husband, bring up the subject of having another partner or couple with you. Turn it into a fantasy as you are making love. If your partner responds well you can say maybe we could try it someday.
After you have been intimate, bring up the idea again. If your partner responds that they would like to try it, then you have successfully broached the subject of trying married personals without ruining your relationship.
Get To Know Possible Partners Online
Before my wife and I make a decision to meet anyone we get to know them well online. We tend to use Fling Personal Ads because it is easy to locate a partner (or partners) who wish to have sex, much easier than using a normal dating service.
When we come across someone we think is suitable we spend a week online talking, exchanging photos and emails, and chatting over the phone. This is a good way to see if they are definitely good prospects for your casual sex encounter.
I hope these pieces of advice help you when using the married personals section of an online service. Have fun and remember to practice safe sex!
By: Simon T Wallace
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