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Swinging Vs. Polyamory - Am I Wrong To Want One Without The Other?

Naughty Admin — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 03:49:00 +0000

Swinging Vs. Polyamory - Am I Wrong To Want One Without The Other?

So you’ve been enjoying the swinging lifestyle for a few years, and are having a blast.

But what if it starts growing into more than just sex with friends - or friends with benefits? What if your husband or wife starts developing romantic (a.k.a. love) feelings for your playmates? Dare we call it polyamory?

"Polyamory is the practice of having more than one loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The relationships are long-term, intimate, and usually (but not necessarily) sexual. Persons who consider themselves emotionally suited to such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly."

— en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

"Swinging, sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle, is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term is archaic and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part."

— en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging

And what happens when the jealousy beast rears it’s ugly head. Admittedly swingers (and certainly those into polyamory) are not nearly as apt to fits of jealousy as some monogamous couples, but it’s been known to happen…

What happens when one partner wants a polyamorous relationship and the other one doesn’t? Is it wrong to want one without the other?

No, it’s absolutely not wrong. What you want is what you want. What you feel and what you want is what’s right for you and for your life. Period.
The swinging lifestyle is typically about sex!

You get together, you play, and then you go home. That’s kind of what it’s about. But Polyamory takes it to a new level and, what I would consider, a much more enlightened level where you are actually in love relationships with multiple partners. It’s a true and total sharing of one another and not many couples (or individuals) are able to do that.
It all comes down to communication.

It’s critical to ask your partner how they feel and to share your feelings. The absolute worst thing that you can do is to hold your feelings inside - what you really want - because you’re afraid your partner may not understand. You have to talk about what you both want from the relationship and what boundaries you’re comfortable with. And in some circumstances, you may find out that you want different things. If this is the case, you’ll have to decide if you are willing to compromise or go your separate ways.
Jealousy

The biggest reason why many people feel uncomfortable in a Swinging or Polyamorous relationship is "jealousy". It’s one of the biggest emotional issues that all couples face. And when you start bringing other people into your bedroom, you simply cannot let jealousy sneak into the picture because it will tear your relationship apart.

So you have to find ways to make each other feel really special and absolutely certain about where you stand in your own relationship before sharing intimate fun with others.

That’s the biggest thing in the end. Talk! Share your feelings!

Oh, and if you think swinging or polyamory are a rare occurrence in our society, think again!

By: Dan Baritchi and Jennifer Hunt

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Swinger’s Sex What It Is?

Naughty Admin — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 03:49:00 +0000

Swinger’s Sex What It Is?

Swinging began in 50’s in America and it is not a sex technique but a lifestyle. Today swinging has spread far and wide and is most popular in the western world including Australia and New Zealand. Swingers or adult swingers as they are called follow the swinger’s lifestyle as has come to existence in modern times.

In countries with closed cultures where tradition and orthodoxy is deep rooted swinging is practically unheard of. But in countries or rather societies which have experienced sexual liberation and freed themselves of traditional mores and dogmas, swinging has taken deep roots. Although it is not widespread to that extent were swinging is expected as a social custom or norm. The reason is swinging is not for all. It is only for those couples who are willing to share their partners or sexuality in agreement with each other and in full knowledge of each other. Since the bondage among singing couples is nowhere broken or weak on the contrary the marital bonds are very strong to permit sex with others in full faith and trust. Swinging is definitely not advised for couples who have disturbed marriage or a disputed affair as many experts advise. The marriage can rock further if jealousy sets in for a great degree of maturity and understanding is required for swinging. Hence swinging is for mature couples.

As most swingers have expressed that their marital bonds have become stronger after they entered the world of adult swingers. The reason is that couples may not find full sexual satisfaction or may not be able to experience their sexuality to the fullest in a monogamous relationship. Swinging allows couples to experience their sexuality to the fullest with the involvement of different sex partners with which they have accepted to enjoy sex. The sex combinations may be threesome foursome or group sex according to the preference of the swingers. Partner exchange or wife swapping can be for sex in same room or in different rooms. Many such factors apply in swinging.

Swinging is not wild sex as people think. There are rules and etiquette to which are adhered to very strictly by swingers. First of all there is no cheating involved as the couples indulge in swinging with the acceptance of each other and in full knowledge of each other. Swinging just does not take place between any swingers rather the partners are carefully chosen in likeness of both husband and wife. The sexual preference and limitations are strictly maintained as per the swingers desires and no violation of privacy of any kind is tolerated.

The best way that couple can enter swinging is to join a swingers club that entertains newbie or amateur swingers although one can enter straight way through personals ads in swingers personals of a dating sites or in a swingers party. But swingers club are sticklers for rules and etiquette and hence bring more comfort for the nervous couple who is experiencing swinging for the first time.

Follow the norms and advice and you will enjoy swinging - just be sure whether you wish for this lifestyle or it can be embarrassing or even heart breaking for you and your wife.

Last but not the least please practice safe sex - use a condom always.

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Naughty Admin — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 23:00:00 +0000

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Married Personals - How To Enjoy Swinging

Naughty Admin — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 20:00:00 +0000

Married Personals - How To Enjoy Swinging

My partner and I are swingers and have been using the married personals section on a few different dating websites for 2 years or there abouts. What I will endeavor to do is relate to you what we have learned to date. When you arrange sexual encounters with married persons, whether you are married or not, these pieces of advice will help make your experience go smoothly.

Be Anonymous

If the man or women you wish to meet is a cheater ensure that you do not give away any about yourself. Let us say you meet a woman who intends to cheat on her hubby. What you certainly don’t wish to happen is an angry married man kicking down your door.

Clever preparation dictates to meet in a locality where you are unknown and in a public place for drinks. Then go back to a motel room. Do not ever give away your surname, where you work (or what you do for a living), and be mindful not to leave your wallet or purse where ID inside could be found.

Use Roleplay In Preparation

If you are a couple who is going to swing with another couple, you should prepare yourself with various role play sessions. This will let help you be ready for what is to come in the actual session.

A good method is for you and your husband or wife to take turns covering their eyes with a blindfold and thinking that the other person is a different person. Do you become uncomfortable or is the experience even more pleasurable that normal?

Novice Swingers

When going to swing for the very first time, endeavor to find a person or couple who is equally new to the scene. When you are all a little nervous and unsure together it is much less intimidating than swinging with experienced partners.

Sit together and have a beer. Be honest and tell them that you’re a little nervous. Your intended partners will quickly lighten up and agree that, yes, they are shy too. Now you will be stunned at just how less shy you feel once everyone admits how they’re feeling.

Telling Your Lover You Want To Swing

This can be a potentially precarious situation in a happy relationship.

When you mention to your husband or wife about considering married personals it can be done during lovemaking. Now I agree, there are other ways, but having spoken to many married swingers I’ve come to the conclusion that this is the popular way that works.

While making love to your wife or husband, bring up the subject of having another partner or couple with you. Turn it into a fantasy as you are making love. If your partner responds well you can say maybe we could try it someday.

After you have been intimate, bring up the idea again. If your partner responds that they would like to try it, then you have successfully broached the subject of trying married personals without ruining your relationship.

Get To Know Possible Partners Online

Before my wife and I make a decision to meet anyone we get to know them well online. We tend to use Fling Personal Ads because it is easy to locate a partner (or partners) who wish to have sex, much easier than using a normal dating service.

When we come across someone we think is suitable we spend a week online talking, exchanging photos and emails, and chatting over the phone. This is a good way to see if they are definitely good prospects for your casual sex encounter.

I hope these pieces of advice help you when using the married personals section of an online service. Have fun and remember to practice safe sex!

By: Simon T Wallace

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Simon T Wallace is the new owner of Fling Personal Ads where anyone can search out local personals for free and find fling encounters.

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Swinging Versus Divorce

Naughty Admin — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 20:00:00 +0000

Swinging Versus Divorce

The swinging facts;

Swinging, also called the alternative or ‘alt’ lifestyle, seems to be increasingly popular among mainstream, middle-aged married couples in America. With this increasing number of people who are into the lifestyle there is also a growing need for interactive ways to meet similar thinking couples. They find the internet to be the ultimate way to interaction. Distance is no longer an issue to meet similar thinking others because of the increasing number of lifestyle lovers who join a worldwide swingers community such as http://www.sdc.com.

According to swingers, the lifestyle can be a solution to (sexual) crises in relationships provided that the emotional bonding is still in tact. According to King (1996) one of the things that normally occurs in a relationship is sexual habituation. This will lead to changes in how we interact with our partners. It will take about three to seven years into a relationship when partners need to increase the levels of stimulation, to obtain the same level of sexual interest in each other. This can be a stressful point in marriages, changes of infidelity are increasing and the divorce rate peaks. Couples who find a way to reconnect both physically and emotionally are more likely to make it through this period. Therefore swinging may be a creative solution.

Scientific studies show consistently that swingers bond better in a relationship than monogamous couples. Another interesting outcome of research is that swingers are happier in their relationships than the average person.

60 Percent of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship. Also swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32% very happy). Overall they consider their lives much more exciting (76% against 54% exciting) than couples who don’t consider swinging as a lifestyle.

The origin of swinging goes back to the 1950’s when California military couples gathered at so called key clubs. Here husbands tossed their keys into a large bowl and the wives then drew a set of keys and the owner of those keys became her sexual partner for the night.

The media soon gave a name to this key swapping and described it as wife swapping. This early swinging lead in the 1960’s to the opening of the first organization for swingers, the "Sexual Freedom League’ at Berkeley, California.

later years up until the present swinging evolved to a widespread style of living. The uprising of the internet gave swinging an impulse. People from all over the world meet through the world wide web.

One of the most popular sites among swingers is http://www.sdc.com.

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Video Guide to Swinging

Naughty Admin — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 22:11:25 +0000

Learn everything you wanted to know about swingers and the swinglifestyle here. This is a great little video which our friends made. It is professional quality and answers all your questions about swinging.

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Threesomes : How To

Naughty Admin — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 18:43:00 +0000

How to Persuade Your Partner to Participate in a Threesome!

By Suzy Bauer

Author of Step by Step Threesome

Let’s face it, most threesome initiatives are started by males. There are exceptions of course, however in the vast majority of cases it’s the guys that come up with the idea…

If the female is the one with the initiative or if both of you are convinced about pursuing the threesome fantasy, you’re one step ahead.

However if you’d like to experience a threesome and you’ve never discussed it with your partner, you might need some guidelines to help you persuading her into participating in your fantasy.

The first thing that you’ve got to take into consideration is that women place high values on the pair-bond.

Women are very apprehensive of anyone and anything threatening the health and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner.

For most women, a threesome carries risks she’s not eager to accept. The first giant obstacle you’ll face will be to overcome her insecurity.

Besides the social conditioning she was raised with, there are some obstacles that need to be cleared before she can be enthusiastic about inviting someone else into an intimate session.

Any woman who truly cares about you worries about the relationship, with all the classic fears and uncertainty about your love. You have to understand that she often asks herself; “Does he love me fully?”

“Does he love only me?”

“Does he really like me the way I am?”

“Am I woman enough to keep him satisfied?”

“Will he leave me for a younger/firmer/prettier woman?”

Filled with uncertainty and jealously she will defend her turf against all possible threats.

The only responsible person to ease the above mentioned issues is the male in the relationship. Happy, secure, confident women aren’t very jealous.

What Behavior Triggers Her Insecurity?

If your partner is jealous, the root might stem from your own behavior. If you recognize yourself in some of this behavior, your partner has every right to feel insecure about your relationship:

You’ve frequently expressed yourdissatisfaction about her

You constantly criticize her and never compliment her

You flirt with every cute woman you see

You stay out all night from time to time

You’ve habitually expressed your discontent with your life and your relationship

You only touch her while having sex and you don’t express your love often

You’ve threatened to leave her

Any of these types of behavior will rapidly turn into insecurity, resentment and a constant jealousy. The insecure woman’s worst nightmare is another female in her life and the last thing she’ll do is invite another woman into your bed.

Remember: your partner has to feel very secure of your relationship before she grants you a threesome. So make sure you never threaten your relationship. It doesn’t matter how angry or upset you become. She needs to know that you guys are an item and nothing will ever break your bond.

Female Security is the number 1 Point of Consideration

If you want her to be sexually confident, you must work very hard to make her secure in your love. If you’re serious about taking your sex life to a level where a threesome can occur you’ll need to make your partner so happy, so positive, so confident and so secure in your love that she’s unafraid to share you with another woman.

What can I do to make her feel secure?

Compliment her and show her how much you love her on a regular base. Write her a loving card, buy her flowers, cuddle up with her on the sofa, whisper in her ear how beautiful she is; there are lot’s of small things you can do that have major positive impacts. Feeling loved, accepted and secure are powerful female aphrodisiacs. She’ll be much more loving if she feels you’re happy with her.

Avoid silly remarks about her looks at all costs, especially if they’re things that she cannot change. Avoid telling her that she’s fat. Instead of making negative remarks, try to compliment her as often as possible.

Don’t flirt with her friends unless you’ve got her approval. If she believes your threesome is just a devious plot to bonk her best friend, you’ve got no chance of ever pulling it off.

Before you tell her about your intentions of having a threesome, you must be sure she’s certain that a threesome isn’t threatening her relationship with you.

Persuasion

It may very well be that your lover fantasizes about a threesome too, but has been afraid or embarrassed to admit it. Contrary to men, women seldom speak to the point and often beat around the bush before telling you what they actually want. If you want her to talk about her fantasies, you can encourage her by:

Listening to her. Magic words for women are "Interesting, please tell me more." Then all you need to do is shut up, listen and learn.

Being supportive of her opinions and ideas. If you criticize or invalidate her, she’ll not reveal her private thoughts.

Affirming that you consider all her desires to be perfectly normal. Acknowledge her fantasies.

Making her more receptive to your fantasy by assuring her that bisexual desires don’t depreciate her value as a lifelong partner. Tell her that diverse fantasies make her more interesting, alluring and captivating as a sexual partner.

No pushing her into something that scares her. Allow her to become accustomed to the idea. Let her explore the thoughts with you. Women work out their problems by discussing them; encourage her to talk to you.

Using the Right Words

Females are much more fined tuned when it comes to using the right words. A common mistake from males when attempting to persuade their partners is to use the wrong the words or the right words at the wrong time.

For example, if she fantasizes about having a threesome with a male friend, insensitive guys ask things like: “Would you like to suck his cock?” or “Would you like to feel his dick up your ass?”

This is a normal thing to say for a guy, but I can assure you that this type of vocabulary is not appreciated by women.

If she mentions that she fancies a threesome with a female friend, an insensitive guy might be silly enough to ask “Would you like taste her pussy?” or “Would you like her to suck yours?” These kinds of comments go too far, too fast, too soon.

In some cases, I know of guys disclosing their fantasies saying things like this: “I’d like to have sex with two women at once.” As you can imagine this won’t go down so well with her.

It’s always better to say: “I’d like to share you with another woman.” This confirms you’re not replacing her and she’s still the center of your world.

One very important point: when she asks you who that woman would be, your best bet is not to mention any name. Tell her the choice would be hers.

This removes any suspicion that you have already done “research" on your project and eases her fear that you want someone she doesn’t like. Besides, this’ll also get her involved in the process.

From the moment you’ve cleared this issue, arranging a threesome will be a piece of cake!

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Naughtylifestyles: Rebuilding A Swinging Lifestyle Community

Naughty Admin — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 22:57:00 +0000

Ok, well you may have noticed we were down for a few days. For our 2009 intro the site got hacked to holy hell so we had to drop it all and re-start.

Happy New Year to all you naughty swingers and NEW visitors. However, for those hackers that brought it down….may you rot in hell you SOBs!

But, there is always opportunity in fresh starts! Please revisit soon if you are a user. What we’re going to do is this. If you’re a new user, and wondering what this is all about….. we’ll have some options for you. If you’re a die-hard or at least mildly interested past NLS member, we will be conducting a poll regarding our future. So, please check back VERY soon!!

Thanks…..S&J Your NaughtyAdmin

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