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Who are “Swingers”, what is the “SwingLifestyle”, are there variations, and….is it really for us??
Welcome! We are Steve & Joyce, a real couple, both professionals within the societal norm, who have been enjoying this swinglifestyle for a little over 6 years. If you are new to this,
we would like to introduce to you a little about swinging and the spectrum of Naughty Lifestyles. There's more than one way to spice
it up in what is often generally called "The Lifestyle"..... Oh.......and, if you like what you read below, consider the following books & DVD's on the subject too! They're a lot more in-depth and a quick read. Enjoy!
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According to NASCA International , a membership organization for couples, swinger publications and clubs, “Swinging is social and
sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It
may be defined as recreational social sex. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liaison, or
with a third person in a threesome. Though single men and women are involved, it is primarily an activity of couples.” So, for
starters, you need to be a committed couple to "swing". Otherwise, it is just a variation of singles dating. This is not to say
singles can't be a part of this range of Naughty Lifestyles, but the core of a threesome in this lifestyle setting is still the
couple.
The term “Swinging” is also used interchangeably with “The Lifestyle” and you may also hear a common combo term, “Swinging Lifestyle”.
All these terms basically refer to couples having consensual sexual contact with other couples or with an individual. Sexual contact
is widely and variably defined. Hence, there are a lot of variations or “Lifestyles” that are naughty in nature, representing a
continuum of Naughty Lifestyles.
Being naughty may start with a little exhibitionist streak, which leads into common area nudity and playful sexual contact not
involving much beyond light touching and caressing; oral or genital sexual contact is reserved for your own partner. This is
a step beyond “nudism” or "naturism"and may be referred to as “same room sex”. The voyeur blood in us leads up to a sexually
stimulating situation, and may be enough for some couples to put a little spice in their life.
Moving up the naughty ladder, couples may agree to same room sexual interaction which involves kissing and oral-genital contact
with the other couple or single. This type of foursome or threesome activity falls short of vaginal penetration (other than with toys)
, and is referred to as “soft swap”. Many “swingers” find their comfort zone in this naughty lifestyle, providing a bit more sexual
tension and exploration than a “look but don’t touch” lifestyle allows.
The next naughty step requires a greater release from jealousies and generally more trusting relationships. Couples and select singles
come together, initially in the same room, with all mutually agreed upon sexual contact activities allowed, including vaginal and
possibly anal penetration. It can be very erotic and stimulating to watch your partner involved in sexual enjoyment with another
while you are having your naughty way with their partner. Likewise, a threesome with male-male-female or male-female-female
interludes fully allows your senses to explore your inhibitions. Before a couple takes this step, it is HIGHLY recommended that
everything is agreed upon BEFORE any naughty activities. Nothing is a bigger downer for the couple AND the couple you may be
playing with than the "drama" of a jealousy based altercation in the heat of the moment. One guarantee....you won't be invited
back.
While many couples restrict their naughty swinging lifestyle to same room or same area activities, there is something about the
occasional erotic romp in another area. Both couples are in the same building or general area, but this naughty variant allows
some separation and sexual activity out of direct line of sight. For some couples, same room activities with direct observation
of their partner’s enjoyment are central to the erotic experience. Others enjoy the mystery and imagination regarding what may
be going on in the other room while they are exploring their sexual fantasies with someone else. Very naughty, and the hottest
form of the swinging lifestyle for many.....
Some completely open couples choose to play together AND apart. In other words, they explicitly agree to have sex with others at
any time they choose. Clearly this type of "open" relationship is quite unique and must be completely jealousy-free. Some
might argue that there may be too much potential for mis-communication, secrecy and deception in this naughty lifestyle.
But to each their own...whatever works. If you have a "hall pass" and have a play-alone relationship, one site you should
visit is The Ashley Madison Agency.
Where do these naughty swinging lifestyle encounters take place? That highly depends on preference. Some fifty years ago,this was
all much more clandestine and the only way naughty couples could get together was via underground newspaper “swinger ads”. Now,
in addition to printed ads in swinger oriented newspapers and magazines, there are options for meeting like-minded couples via
internet websites and at clubs which cater to the swinging lifestyle. By placing profiles on websites such as Naughty Lifestyles,
couples and select singles can specify their interests and meet only those that match their profile for private encounters
or in small parties. Couples meet and greet at mutually agreed upon venues such are local bars, clubs, restaurants and private
residences. In addition, couples can attend private clubs and parties and meet those of interest on-site. Some of these clubs
are on-premise, meaning sexual activity in designated areas is allowed. Others are off-premise affairs during which couples
may meet, talk, drink, and dance, but then go to their place of choice for sexual swinging encounters.
Some couples desire multiple partners for sexual encounters only, others like to make naughty friends for erotic repeat encounters
of choice. Some prefer three-somes and four-somes, others a larger group orgy, some prefer private encounters, while others enjoy
the exhibitionistic rush of sexual activity in an on-premise club. In short, to each their own, and all such naughty activities
are within the spectrum of Naughty Lifestyles.
Swinging traditionally refers to heterosexual couples or straight men and bi-curious/bi-sensual women. If you're looking for a
Bi-experience, you must check this site out: Bi-Cupid.com
There are also
niche alternative S&M and B&D and fetish swingers, as well as gay and lesbian swingers. Again, a lot of flavors to Naughty Lifestyles.
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